Why does counselling help?
'You've got friends..why do you need to talk to someone else?'If you have friends that you can really talk to, and who give you space to talk, without giving you answers, you possibly wouldn't be looking at this page anyway, and have the support that you need.
BUT sometimes friends have answers that don't really fit with how you're feeling, and you wish you could go along with them but you can't. Or maybe you are dealing with grief from a bereavement,or splitting up with a partner, and you are supporting so many other people that you just don't have anyone to listen to you, and how you are feeling?
I am not going to tell you how you are feeling,or what you should do, but I will give you the space to tell me your story, and how it is affecting you. Sometimes things happen in our life, that we just find too hard to discuss with a friend or a family member. This is where I believe a counsellor can really help.
It is your time and space to really say how your feel, without any knock on effects. It doesn't matter whether your thoughts change from week to week. When we are facing a trauma, our minds are really all over the place, and that's normal. You may however be feeling really stuck in your thoughts, and need someone to stay with you through this period, working at your pace.
Counselling is a space to open up your thoughts, which you may not feel able to do with others. Sometimes we are so busy being strong for others, our own feelings just get lost. Maybe you have a problem that you just can't share with friends or family, it's too painful, or will affect someone.
My training has taught me a way of being that enables me to listen unjudgmentally, empathically, and to 'prize' you as an individual. In other words, I am not going to judge you on how you feel or act, but am going to give my best to understand your world and how it is for you. By doing this, we meet in a place where you are safe to change if you want to, or accept who you are, however you are.
Emotions within all of us, can get to the stage where they just are desperate to be released. I endeavour at all times to offer you a place where you can release these freely, without judgement, and with the best will in the world to meet you in these feelings at all times.
